Let it Go

This morning I found myself re-hashing an incident that occurred with a family member over and over again.  You know the kind of thing, something small so you don’t feel you can really go and bring it up with them and have a huge old argument, but nevertheless you find it really annoying and you just wish they wouldn’t do it. To avoid a falling out I said nothing; but in my head I went over the incident over and over again feeling annoyed and upset with every repetition.

While, my sibling had no idea they had upset me and was merrily getting on with their life, I sat in a puddle of anger and hot-headedness. 

Eventually I gave myself a reality check I reminded myself that what happened was over and in the past, that in the wider scheme of things (world hunger, poverty, etc) it was not that important and that anyway by this time next week I’d have ceased to care about it.  

Nevertheless once I’d calmed down I got to thinking about how often we do this to ourselves.  You know what I mean.  All those things, that we really wish we could forget but don’t.  Incidents, arguments, events, embarrassments, it’s like it’s a film on a permanent loop in our head, which we watch repeatedly.  Its past, it’s over, it’s happened, it’s done with; but we’re not done with it.  We keep thinking about it and wallowing in it.   

The problem is it’s not just pictures; we feel every moment of pain, shame, fear or guilt as fresh and as deeply as if it had just happened. It’s like we’re masochists repeatedly lashing ourselves with our own mind-made whip.  

It’s like we can’t stop it, like it is out of our control, but really it’s not.   

Like I did, we have to just stop.   Really, we need to think of something else, go and do something that makes us feel good and puts a smile on our face, try a change of scenery or just try putting whatever it is into a wider perspective. 

Whatever we do we have to stop making ourselves feel bad by constantly re-living the past.  

Forget it; put it behind you, because in the end, the only one who feels the pain, anger or shame of it is you.  So let it go. 

Red Means Go

I’m always telling my clients about the great benefits of colour and how they can use it in their lives.  Well I found I had to take my own advice today.

Have you ever had one of those days when you just can’t get going? You have a millions things you need to do and no energy in which to do them.  Your telling yourself to get going but your mind and body don’t respond because you just can’t be bothered.  That was how I started out this day.

So I wondered what I could do to rev myself and my eye fell on my favourite red top.  Ah, just what I needed to perk me up.  Red for danger, red for passion, red to excite the senses.  Red is stimulating and energising, it represents enthusiasm and commitment and it can makes us feel powerful, dynamic and sexy. 

Colour can influence our emotions, actions and reactions and red especially has a powerful effect.

Sometimes we just need a little assistance to get us in the mood and on the go. If you’re having trouble taking  action in your life why not help yourself by finding a way to bring more red into it.  Try red drinks like pomegranate, cranberry or red grape juice.  Get red throws, cushion or lamps for your living space.  Add more red to your wardrobe or even invest in some red underwear that you can wear everyday.  You’ll be surprised by what a difference it makes, it may even make you feel like a new person.

I’m off out in my red top, carrying my red bag and sporting my lovely ring with the large red stone (people love it; it always gets lots of comments).   If you want more energy, stimulation and excitement in your life why not add some red to it and let me know how that works for you? 

“Do You Think Poor – Part 2”

Right, if you read part 1 of this blog you’ll know whether you, like most of us, think poor.  And I promised to tell you how to change your Poverty Mentality to something more positive

Well, first you have to get rid of your old negative dialogues such as “I’m no good with money”, “I can’t seem to stretch my wages far enough”, “Money just seems to slip through my fingers” or any of the above and replace them with new positive dialogue such as ”I know how to manage my money well”, “I always have a enough for what I need”, “I easily save and grow my finances”, “I know how to make my money work best for me”.

Get into the habit of describing yourself and your circumstances positively and, in the present tense, so that you state that you appreciate what you currently have, use what you have in the best way and know that more is coming to you. Try something like this “I am grateful that I have enough money for my needs right now”, “I don’t worry about my finances because I trust that I will always have enough for my wants and needs”.  “Although I’m not able to purchase what I want today but I know it will come to me when the time is right”.  Or make up your own.

You may not see instant results but pretty soon you’ll start to see a difference in your money flow.

If you change your inner dialogue, and take action to go with it, such as putting aside £5 a month in a savings account to show you handle money responsibly and not spending what you don’t have or getting into unnecessary debt (Ask yourself, do you really need that £110 handbag on your credit card or yet another expensive gadget?), you will begin to change your negative beliefs into positive ones. 

Ok it may not be easy and may take some getting used to, but it really is that simple.  And for those of you who were hoping for some magic formula – truly, this is it.   

If you really make an effort to change your beliefs, if you do the above, your Poverty Mentality will transform into an Abundance Mentality and money will start to flow to you rather than away. 

Do you Think Poor?

Do you have a Poverty Mentality?  Many of you may not even know what I mean, while others will be declaring “Of course not, I want to be rich”. 

But if you regularly think or tell yourself things like “I just can’t make ends meet”, “I’ll never be able to afford that”, “Money is so hard to come by” or “I just don’t have enough”.  Then a Poverty Mentality is exactly what you have.  

Thinking or saying these things is an ingrained habit and one we need to break. 

Just consider your own thoughts on this for a moment, even if you don’t have the money right now, why are you are assuming you’ll never have it?  Just because you are experiencing financial difficulty or don’t have the money for the thing you want right now, doesn’t mean you never will. 

In truth most of us have experienced peaks and troughs – times when we could easily afford what we wanted and then the next thing we knew we can’t find two pennies to rub together.  However, we don’t remember the good times; all we know is we ‘never’ have enough money.

In reality anything could happen.  You could get a better paid job, find a second job, be left an inheritance or win money on the lottery.  These things happen to hundreds of people everyday.  So why not you?  I’ll tell you why. These things happen if you believe they will….BUT if you believe that they won’t, then they won’t.

It all comes down to your unconscious beliefs because it is these that control your money flow.  You can’t just want to be rich or THINK yourself rich; you have to BELIEVE it can happen for you.  You have to believe that being mega rich, well off, financially solvent, not struggling to pay bills (pick whatever level you are most comfortable with right now) is possible for you. 

If this resonates with you and you want to know how you can change your beliefs, come back here and I’ll give you some tips on how to exchange your poor mentality for a richer one soon….